Dancehall artist Big Pin has revealed that he is not ready for marriage, despite being in his early 40s, opening up about his personal life during a candid interview on AM Live.
Speaking to Alex Mwakideu, the Nikikupata hitmaker said his decision is deeply influenced by his upbringing, life experiences, and the lessons he has learned over the years.
At 41 years old, Big Pin’s remarks have sparked widespread conversation, particularly because they challenge long-held societal expectations around age and marriage.
During the interview, Big Pin made it clear that he views marriage as a serious, lifelong commitment that requires full readiness.
“Marriage is not something you rush. You have to be ready for it,” he said.
The artist explained that while many people associate age with readiness, he believes the two are not necessarily linked. Instead, he emphasised emotional maturity, stability, and personal clarity as the key factors in making such a decision.
The artist reflected on his journey growing up and navigating life before and after fame, noting that these experiences shaped his cautious approach to major life decisions.
“When I was growing up, I was mostly raised by my mom. My dad was there but not fully there in terms of nini; of course alikuwa analipa school fees nini, but nilikuwa mostly na mama yangu… I vowed to myself that one I would not like to have a kid outside… coz I felt like I missed a male figure; I don’t think that would be possible if I’m having a baby mama,” he shared.
Big Pin rose to prominence in the early 2000s during Kenya’s Kapuka era, a time that also came with personal and professional challenges. Having experienced both success and loss within the industry, he suggested that these moments played a role in shaping his outlook on life.
Rather than rushing into marriage, he said he prefers to fully understand himself and his circumstances first.
“Right now I’m focusing on myself. I don’t think I’m at that point yet,” he said.
He noted that societal expectations often push individuals toward marriage, but insisted that such decisions should be personal rather than influenced by external pressure.
However, he drew a clear distinction between being in a relationship and entering marriage.
“It’s not that I don’t believe in love, but marriage is a different level. You have to be sure,” he explained.
According to the artist, marriage requires a deeper level of commitment, responsibility, and readiness that goes beyond romantic feelings.