NAIROBI, Kenya- Love is one of the most powerful emotions a human can feel.
When someone seemingly stomps on that feeling through infidelity, the sense of betrayal can shake you to your core and make you question yourself and your ability to love again. When the one you love is unfaithful, it can be difficult to pick up the pieces and move on.
Whether you’ve parted ways with your partner or not, love itself is not an emotion that can be turned off and on at will.
There are many ways to heal and overcome the negative effects of infidelity, one of which may be forgiveness.
-Quotes on forgiveness-
Consider the following quotes as you try to forgive the one who hurt you.
“For there are two kinds of forgiveness in the world: the one you practice because everything is all right, and what went before is mended. The other kind of forgiveness you practice because someone needs desperately to be forgiven, or because you need just as badly to forgive them, for a heart can grab hold of old wounds and go sour as milk over them.” – Catherynne M. Valente
“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.” – Robert Brault
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a constant attitude.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” – Nelson Mandela
“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” – Criss Jami
“Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You’re done. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to have lunch with the person. If you keep hitting back, you stay trapped in the nightmare…” – Anne Lamott
The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare.” – Lance Morrow
“Listen. Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember.” – Barbara Kingsolver
“We don’t forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it-because we need it.” – Bree Despain
“Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness.” – Corrie Ten Boom
“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” – Nelson Mandela
“When we think we have been hurt by someone in the past, we build up defenses to ourselves from being hurt in the future. So, the fearful past causes a fearful future, and the past and future become one. We cannot love when we feel fear…. When we release the fearful past and forgive everyone, we will experience total love and oneness with all.” – Gerald G. Jampolsky
“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person’s throat.” – William Paul Young
“Forgiveness is not something you do for someone else; it’s something you do for yourself. To forgive is not to condone, it is to refuse to continue feeling bad about an injury.” – Jim Beaver
-Quotes to heal a broken heart-
When you feel down in the dumps, lean into the quotes below:
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” – Rumi
“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…” – Nicholas Sparks
“As my sufferings mounted, I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation – either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
“This life is for loving, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving. I choose to live life this way. I want to live my life in such a way that when I get out of bed in the morning, the devil says, ‘aw shit, he’s up!” – Steve Maraboli
“On the girl’s brown legs there were many small white scars. I was thinking, do those scars cover the whole of you, like the stars and the moons on your dress? I thought that would be pretty too, and I ask you right here please to agree with me that a scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.” – Chris Cleave
“In a futile attempt to our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others.” – Brennan Manning
You don’t need another Human Being to make your life complete, but let’s be honest. Having your wounds kissed by someone who doesn’t see them as disasters in your soul, but cracks to put their love into, Is the most calming thing in this World.” – Emery Allen
“It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. The fulfillment of such miracles depends on whether we let our wounds pull us down or lift us up towards our dreams.” – Jocelyn Soriano
“My scars remind me that I did indeed survive my deepest wounds. That in itself is an accomplishment. And they bring to mind something else, too. They remind me that the damage life has inflicted on me has, in many places, left me stronger and more resilient. What hurt me in the past has actually made me better equipped to face the present.” – Steve Goodier
“The sun shall always rise upon a new day and there shall always be a rose garden within me. Yes, there is a part of me that is broken, but my broken soil gives way to my wild roses.” – C. JoyBell C.
-Quotes to help you move on-
No matter what you decide to do after someone cheats on you, you can still begin the process of moving on. Some couples can successfully work through issues related to infidelity and enjoy a healthy relationship once again; others find that parting ways is what’s right for one or both of them. Here are some quotes that may give you more clarity as you learn what moving on means to you.
“I think that the power is the principle. The principle of moving forward, as though you have the confidence to move forward, eventually gives you confidence when you look back and see what you’ve done.” – Robert Downey Jr.
“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.” – C. JoyBell C.
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” – Deborah Reber
“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” – Steve Maraboli
“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” – Ann Landers
“Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.” – Roy T. Bennett
“There ain’t no way you can hold onto something that wants to go, you understand? You can only love what you got while you got it.” – Kate DiCamillo
“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.” – Shannon L. Alder
“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”- Mandy Hale
“If you didn’t love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and everything that followed it is part of letting it go.” – Sarah Dessen
Being cheated on can cause you to struggle with intense emotions like anger and grief or even develop mental health disorders such as depression or anxiety.
You don’t have to fight this battle alone.
Regain is an online counseling platform for both individuals and couples. This means that you can get support by yourself or participate in sessions alongside your partner.
