Singer and actress Sanaipei Tande is pushing back against long-held societal expectations around marriage, motherhood and timelines created by culture or public opinion.
Speaking on the RawTalk Hub Podcast the celebrated entertainer shared candid thoughts about relationships, children and the pressure many women face as they get old.
For Tande, marriage and motherhood should be personal decisions rather than universal goals that everyone is expected to pursue.
Societal expectations create unnecessary pressure and ignore the reality that people live different lives and want different things.
According to the singer, many people are raised with the belief that success follows a predictable path: education, career, marriage and children. But she argues that such expectations overlook individual differences and personal priorities.
“Marriage is not an achievement,” she said.
According to Tande, while entering marriage may not necessarily be an accomplishment on its own, creating and sustaining a stable and fulfilling partnership is something worthy of recognition.
“A good marriage is an achievement,” she explained.
Tande urged women not to allow pressure from family members, friends or online critics to force them into relationships that may not align with their own needs or emotional readiness.
She stressed that entering a marriage purely to satisfy expectations could ultimately lead to unhappiness and emotional strain.
Beyond marriage, the actress also addressed motherhood and the expectation that women should have children by a certain age.
For many women, she argued, the pressure intensifies once they reach their thirties, with society often treating motherhood as a deadline rather than a deeply personal decision.
She argued that bringing children into the world should happen because someone genuinely wants to become a parent and feels emotionally prepared, not because they fear criticism from others.
She also expressed concern about people having children simply to fulfill social expectations, warning that such decisions can affect not only parents but children themselves.
According to her, she would never want to bring a child into an unstable or unhealthy environment merely to meet society’s standards.
Tande also questioned the role of those who often pressure women into becoming mothers.
“The people asking you why you haven’t had children are not the people who will help you raise them,” she said.
She pointed out that many critics disappear once the realities of parenting emerge — from emotional responsibilities to financial obligations.
Despite her criticism of social pressure, Tande clarified that she is not opposed to marriage or motherhood.
